Terribly grateful to the librarian who tipped me off as to how to get in there, employment wise: you work as a volunteer first. I spend sizable amounts of time there anyway.

Have been thinking....perhaps the reason that guy doesn't like me is that for all practical purposes, I am not interested in men. You are the exception; I have no idea whether I would find them attractive if I didn't feel the way I do. In any case the end result is the same- I am a single woman who doesn't treat men with deference and as potential mates. If I find them decent and worthy of respect, then I treat them with respect and am friendly. I do occasionally check out women...fleetingly. Maybe these things show and he dislikes me for them.