I was beginning to feel like I was finally emerging from the quagmire of self loathing and guilt , pain, etc. And now she wants to throw me back into that whole feeling guilty about my feelings trip?

Wow, thanks. Yeah, empathy. "All the empathy in the world", my ass. Or did you forget- I'm autistic. That feel good crap flies right into a brick wall when it gets thrown my way and it insults me. I loathe insincerity and thinly veiled self interest.